Friendships and Relationships????

You know when a couple splits have split up quite often there is a division of a lot of things. If they have lived together it gets complicated. Splitting up personal possessions and deciding who gets the outdoor setting you bought together. If you haven't lived together there is the giving back of clothes and toiletries. The ritualistic deleting of your relationship on facebook and happy couple snaps is tedious but as I said, ritualistic. Then comes the friendships.
And that's when things start to get tricky. How do you stop being friends with someone just because they were friends with your former partner first? There doesn't seem to be any etiquette on what is arguably one of the most controversial of tests at the end of a relationship. It seems the messier the break up the more likely sides will be taken. Those that say they are going to remain impartial inevitably do take a side without even realising it.

In the last couple of years I have noticed that when relationships dissolve it seems to be a case of "well they were my friends first." For me, I simply say well it's not a big deal. Those that I have made a legitimate connection with rather than them being my friend because of my partner, they will stick around. Those that don't? Not really that big of a loss. But it truly is a big test of friendship. One of my closest friends was a friend I met because she started dating my (now ex) partner's best mate. It quickly became evident that she was awesome and since I was as well we should definitely be friends. She now has a new partner and I absolutely adore him. They recently had a child together and I am that beautiful baby boy's godmother and I couldn't be more proud. I am his Aunty Huni and I love it.

Friendships are like flowers, they start as seeds and grow. Sometimes they became great big hard wearing rose bushes which blooms more every year. And sometimes they never make it past the seedling stage.
I feel fortunate for the friends I have regardless of whose friend they were first. My true friends will read this and know it is about them. And let's face it my not-so-true friends probably won't read it at all.

Peace out flowers
xxx